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What is Love
and Logic?
THE LOVE AND
LOGIC PROCESS
- Shared
control: Gain control by giving away the control you don’t
need.
- Shared
thinking and decision-making: Provide opportunities for the
child to do the greatest amount of thinking and decision-making.
- Equal
shares of empathy with consequences: An absence of anger causes
a child to think and learn from his/her mistakes.
- Maintain
the child’s self-concept: Increased self-concept leads to
improved behavior and improved achievement.
THE RULES OF LOVE
AND LOGIC
RULE #1:
Adults take care of themselves by providing limits in a loving way.
Adults
avoid anger, threats, warnings or lectures.
Adults use
enforceable statements.
Children
are offered choices within limits.
Limits are
maintained with compassion, understanding or empathy.
RULE #2:
Childhood misbehavior is treated as an opportunity for gaining
wisdom.
In a loving
way, the adult holds the child accountable for solving his/her
problems in a way that does not make a problem for others.
Children
are offered choices with limits.
Adults use
enforceable statements.
Adults
provide delayed/extended consequences.
The adult’s
empathy is “locked in” before consequences are delivered.
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